Intertility consultation

I managed to get into an appt today at 2pm with a dr (in coon rapids) for intertility treatments. If I didn't take today I'd have to wait a month! So needless to say I'm glad I got in today! This means I can start my treatments this month!! woo hoo :-) You have to start at a certain point in your cycle and if I waited a month I would miss this next cycle. Phew close call :-)

Okay, let's get this party started!

I heard back from the Dr today. My Progesterone level is (in her words) "depressingly low" I'm at a 3 and drs want to see at least a 10.. so no, I'm not ovulating. Which means I'm not going to get pg without help. You need progesterone to thicken the endometrium lining to allow implantation. So basically even if we did conceive... my body can't hold a pregnancy with my progesterone levels so low. bummer.

So tomorrow Joey's having a sperm analysis done and we need to make sure he's normal. If he's not... it's a whole nother ball game.

So where do we go from here? Assuming and hoping Joey's normal (We'll find out on Monday the results of that test) I will start a medication that's call Clomid. Clomid will make me ovulate at turbo power :-)

We will do three rounds of that (ie: 3 cylces, 3 months) and hope to get pregnant then. If after 3 months it's a no go... then we need to see a specialist and work out another plan... see if something else is the problem.

So that's the news here. Joey and I both feel really good about pursuing this... we continue to know God will provide a family for us and we know He's going to take care of us!

interesting...

I found an index card that fell out of my bible last night. I had written it last summer while I was going through a Beth Moore bible study at my church. It was during a very real time in my life. God was showing me many many things and I was very honest with Him about my fears.

The card reads:

"Lord I have this fear and I want you to remove it and bring me through it. My fear is that I won't be genuine in my faith and that I won't be able to survive if things aren't easy. Take this fear from me and help me to know you will never ever fail me!!!

Joshua 1:5 ' No one will be able to stand up against you all the days of your life. As I was with Moses, so I will be with you and I will never leave you nor forsake you'"


I thought that was intersting because the very thing I was afraid of (losing faith in hard times) God is showing me at this point in my life! I know this isn't the same as losing a spouse or family member. But this is one of the hardest things I've personally had to go through and I find myself leaning on God and His Word and His Holy Spirit more than I ever have! So I praise God for bringing me here, for being so present in my life... and I praise Him for showing me that card and letting me see how far He's brought me!

A card

I have the best husband (I may be a bit biased). But I loved the card he gave me today:

"My Love,
I thank God for the miracle of you.. for the love we share that has changed my life...
I thank Him for the faith in our spirits, the dreams in our souls,
and the wonder of knowing He made us for each other!
You are my heart's desire-today and forever."

My Valentine's surprise

Well this morning I woke up to breakfast in bed, a gift, a beautiful card and JOEY STAYING HOME FROM WORK!! Apparently he's had the day off, but didn't tell me! :-) I started crying, but they were tears of JOY (it's about time!) that I wasn't going to have to alone today!

So I headed off to the dr to have my blood drawn for my progesterone test. And the lab lady said "Oh, you're here for a pregnancy test?" and I said "uh... no, a progesterone test, to see if I'm ovulating" she was like "oh, I'm so sorry, they have the same abbreviations (pg)". At first I was mad because I thought she was saying there was some indication that I was pg (like she can read my blood with her naked eye!) but I soon got over it. I'm in a really good mood today and Jenny and Danny are coming over tonight so we're all going to hang out.

God has blessed me with an AMAZING husband and a wonderful family :-)

The Lyrics to my life

I have loved the song "Stand in the Rain" by Superchick since I first heard it.. but today I was listening to it and felt compelled to search the lyrics.. only to find they describe this season in my life to a T.

I was talking to my sister-in-law Bridgit just today about this ridiculous amount of sadness I am experiencing. She suggested that after over a year of surpressing my feelings about this issue, the relief I feel by finally letting it out is accompanied by the emotions I have been surpressing throughout the year as well.

I think she's right. Feel free to read the lyrics below:

She never slows down
She doesn’t know why but she knows that
When she’s all alone it feels like its all coming down

She won’t turn around
The shadows are long and she fears
If she cries that first tear
The tears will not stop raining down

So stand in the rain
Stand your ground
Stand up when it’s all crashing down
You stand through the pain
You won’t drown
And one day what’s lost can be found
You stand in the rain

She won’t make a sound
Alone in this fight with herself
And the fears whispering if she stands she’ll fall down

She wants to be found
The only way out is through everything
She’s running from
Wants to give up and lie down

So stand in the rain
Stand your ground
Stand up when it’s all crashing down
You stand through the pain
You won’t drown
And one day what’s lost can be found
You stand in the rain

So stand in the rain
Stand your ground
Stand up when it’s all crashing down
Stand through the pain
You won’t drown
And one day what’s lost can be found

So stand in the rain
Stand your ground
Stand up when it’s all crashing down
You stand through the pain
You won’t drown
And one day what’s lost can be found
You stand in the rain

The hardest day.

Yesterday unfortunately became one of the hardest days I've faced since all this started. I had such a nice weekend and all the million times I heard "could you be pregnant?" "when are you going to get pregnant?" weren't even that horrible. But yesterday I couldn't shake the sadness. It was too much for me. I spent some time at my mom's sobbing with her, and just when I thought I cried it all out, low and behold on my way home more tears came, and once again at home with Joey, they came again.

He doesn't understand how this can be so hard for me, and to be honest, I'm not sure either, but I wouldn't care if I never had a day like yesterday again.

This morning I woke up and was reading in my bible and completing a Beth Moore bible study lesson and I read this:

"Perhaps you know how it feels to be obedient to God yet not see the results you wanted or expected...But Joy lies ahead." Those words hit me hard. I do believe that through Christ, Joy does lie ahead and this is just a season in my life. I just have to keep believing.

In the meantime my sister gave me a verse to rely on through my sadness and King David couldn't have said it better:

"Answer me when I call to you, O my righteous God. Give me relief from my distress, be merciful to me and hear my prayer." Psalm 4:1

My valentine's day present...to myself.

I will be going to the Clinic on Valentine's day for a blood draw. This will be the first step towards testing to see if we have a problem. I feel very good about it (and so does Joey) and I'm just happy to get the ball rolling!

I suppose I should update...

It's hard for me to want to update this when I'm feeling down. I guess I only want to show the possitive side, but that would defeat the purpose of this huh?

Last night was really hard. Joey and I sort of revisited our "plan" of action for the next year or so and it wasn't easy or fun. I guess mainly because I had to revisit my fears of what we'll hear at the dr's. I cried a lot and I was a mess.. poor Joey! But I woke up this morning and although I don't feel much better, it's a new day and God has given me so many things to be thankful for.

I am currently waiting to hear from my Dr. (well she's actually a midwife) about making an appt to start the process. I don't even know exactly what all that entails, but we're starting it none the less.

You can pray for both of us during this time that our communication would be strong and we would be open with one another and always always bring this to God. I am feeling at peace about seeing a Dr. and yet it makes me sad all at the same time. You can pray for my spirits.. today they are low.

Words from a friend....

My good friend Rachel Drevlow sent me an email today and it was SO perfect and I can't help but to share her wisdom in this journal:

From Rachel:

I want you to know that I have been praying this for you today: "I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the Sprit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hop to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparable great power for us who believe." - Ephesians 1:17-19

I pray that God would give you grace to focus the Lord's saving plan and the ways he is working in you to draw others to himself. How easy it is to wallow in self pity. I say that not to be insensitive, but in quoting the words from your blog. Right now my Bible study is going through Ephesians. During the 1st chapter the study author, John Stott, talked about how we as Christians tend to be so individualistic, forgetting that so many of God's promises of blessing and salvation are for the church as a whole. I was convicted. Too often I view God as a waiter in the sky who should have his "pitcher of blessings", mixed to my specifications, (does God do mixed drinks?!??)ready to pour out at my every whim. For you it is a baby. Rach, I pray a baby and one from your body is in God's plans for you. It makes me so sad to think of the heartbreak you have been enduring. I love you and always will and will continue to pray.

Grace & peace to you this day--

A great source...

There is this website called "thenest.com" If you've heard of the knot.com, this is the married version :-). Anyways on the nest they have local boards where you can chat with girls in your area. It keeps me not-so-bored during the day!

Well they finally came out with a board for woman who are having trouble TTC (trying to conceive). At first I was hesitant thinking it would be depressing being with a bunch of woman who are going through fertility treatments and testing and what not. But it has really helped. It has given me a lot of hope and it has showed me the reality of these issues. But all in all it has educated me, which helps me feel more at ease thinking about the steps we might possibly have to take somewhere in the future!

a baby.... what?

This weekend we went to Josh and Christy's cabin. It was heaven. Joey and I both agreed we couldn't have enjoyed our time more, and it was exactly what we needed! The thought of a baby was barely on my mind, and the few times something was mentioned about it, I was able to breeze past it mentally. God really knows us doesn't he? (NOT that I ever doubted!) But he knew exactly what I needed and that was a weekend away from this stress.

I can't praise him enough! Not only for this weekend, but for His goodness all over! Since I started this blog, I have had more revelations, more contentness and more joy in my life. I know that's completely Him! I know HE is the reason I started this (by prompting my sister) and HE is the one that is giving me the peace I have needed. What a wonderful Father. :-)

Where's the faith?

I have decided that God has given my husband more faith than I with regards to getting pregnant! But at least he has shown me that this much is true!

Last night Joey said some things that were really hard to hear. I was angry of course, but not because he had said them but because I knew God was speaking directly through Joey. Which was a bummer because I hate being wrong... but I guess I'd prefer to be hearing the voice of God even if it's through Joey :-P. (JK)

So then I had to stop and wonder if he had to speak so boldly through Joey because I wasn't listening? Hm... I bet that part is true. I'll definitely be discussing that one with the LORD :-)

Anyways, I'm happy it happened and I'm glad to be hearing a firm voice in this matter. It's much better than nothing! I know that lately I have been dealing with a lot of self wallowing (sp?) so I probably haven't been listening, but last night was like a slap in the face (not literally, Joey would never hit me!). So my ears are perked and I'm going to be doing some serious listening.. something that I am NOT very good at! (I'm sure you know talking is more my thing!)

Today is a better day. :-)

Perfect Words

I have recently found out that the reason I didn't want to be vulnerable in the past was because of my own expectations. I didn't want to have expectations on people and the way they responded to me, but I did. If they said too much, I thought they pitied me. If they said too little, I thought they didn't care. So it was my own standards that were holding me back from sharing this with friends and family.

I cannot believe the response I recieved after sending out an email yesterday. God gave people the perfect words of wisdom after wisdom after wisdom. I read encouraging verses, sayings and then some people just said they were praying. It was all exactly what I needed. I can thank God for that. I believe he gave me the strength to share and I believe he gave me the perfect friends with the perfect words.

Today I feel good.

Okay, starting over

These are my private thoughts that I know are subject to the publics viewing, however I have decided it's time to put my journey down somewhere and since I spend most of my day at my computer, I figure this would be the best place. If this information about us is new to you, don't be surprised. I recently expressed the feelings below to my sister (my closest friend) and she was shocked. Apparently I have kept these things more private than I knew.

So here goes:

Joey and I are trying to have a baby. We stopped protecting 17 months ago. Through that time I have prayed that God would give us the peace either way. That each passing month would make us stronger and not weaker. I have had and will continue to have complete faith that God will provide and take care of us. My new verse for this season in my life is Psalm 27:14

"Be strong and take heart and WAIT for the LORD."

I am aware that this is a waiting game, and that He's in control.

That being prefaced, there are still many days I feel like a complete mess. I cry a lot, I feel sad a lot and unforutnately anger comes a long with those feelings as well. My cousin (and one of my best friends) recently found out she is pregnant. She has been married a year and I am so happy for her, but this of course stirs up a lot of emotions in me. I hate to report that I spent the day I found out crying in bed. I need to state again, I am VERY happy for her and her husband. But I feel regretably sad for Joey and I. This happens a lot as you I'm sure can imagine. People get pregnant all the time.. all around us, close friends and barely friends. But each time seems a little harder.

The thing is, we want to have a baby of our own, but we also want to adopt. We just figured we'd have a few of our own first. The problem is, the testing alone will probably cost us at least $2000. Then what if they tell us our chances are super slim (without spending at least $15k.. yes these numbers are real). That $2k will seem like it was wasted and it could have gone towards adoption (which costs about $20k.. you can see why the numbers matter...). Yet adoption comes with so many heartbreaks as it is, is it worth going into that without fully knowing we can't have our own baby first?

The frustrations are endless.. they truly are. Which is why I MUST MUST MUST come back to: "Be strong and take heart and WAIT for the LORD." We know He will take care of us, we are His children, His plan for us is good, and not to harm us (Jer 29:11), But our hears hurt in the meantime. All we want is to start our family and have a baby.

If you are reading this, please pray for us. Please pray for our hearts that they aren't shattered through this process. Pray that we CONTINUE to trust in God and that He continues to remind us of His faithfullness. Please pray that God will bring us the right baby in the right time. And we'd be okay with that timing.

Where does time go?!?!!?

okay, well I'm in the full swing of wedding season and I'm staying on top of things, which is an amazing feeling! Joey has started his rotations and is working long hours, but is fully loving what he's doing! Praise God!

In order to pass the time when Joey's working, I have signed up for netflix. I am in love. In the last two weeks I have watched 6 movies! :-) I heart movies!

Miss and Bridgit and fastly approaching their due dates, they have their last wedding before the babes come this weekend. Hopefully they'll go early!

what else? Oh we're moving to cambridge in Sept. I'm sure most of you already know this. We're going to be living in Chip's basement and renting out our house in the meantime. Joey got into the RPAP program for people who want to be rural physicians, so he'll be doing 9 months of rotations at the Cambridge clinic. It's 3 blocks from Ella and Tate, needless to say he's VERY excited! Poor Miss!

It's been a while!

So here's the news in my life.

.....

Okay, just kidding there is more than that. First, my sister Miss and her hubby Bill are pregnant with baby #3!!! Crazy kids.. :-) Due in July

My brother Nate, and his wife Bridgit are pregnant with baby #2 also due in July! And my little brother Jonathan is getting married to his FABULOUS fiancee Becca Strantz on 1/6/07. We are so excited for all the exciting stuff happening in our family!

Nothing is really new in my household. Joey delivered a baby for the first time!! He said it was amazing and I know that moments like that make him know all the hard work he's doing is going to be totally worth it!

We are still living life day to day... enjoying most of them ;-) My business is still doing awesome.. totally by God's doing. I have like 25 weddings for this coming year so far, and I think that's not bad!

I am currently on a break, since my next wedding isn't until April. I am working at the bank 3 days a week, which is nice. I am already getting tired of waking up to an alarm though! (okay i'm spoiled).

I guess that's it.

Have a great day!

WE are going to Mexico!!

I can't wait.. we're SOOO excited.

Joey has some time off over christmas and we're going Dec 17-22 SIX days in paradise!!

We just booked it tonight and the timing is PERFECt.. the day after he finishes icky exams.. and the end of my wedding season.. clearly reasons to celebrate =). and we got a great deal... so we're super super super super excited.

Now hopefully the next 2 1/2 months will fly by =)

tic tok tic tok

I'm not even sure I spelled that right! But i'm waiting to leave for a wedding. I'm too alert to sleep, I'm too lazy to try to work (and I'll be working 9 hours tonight.. I figure don't need to do more) so I just am sitting here checking my email a hundred times an hour... waiting to leave for the wedding.

I wish Joey was here, better yet I wish he was going with me. I'm excited to have Sarah do it with me, but I'm a tiny bit nervous. I'm sure she is too.. but in the end I'm sure it'll all work out! But since I have to be in the car a total of 2 hours by myself, I wish he could be there to keep me company.

I don't know why I (sort of) talked the bride into having me there till 11:30, it's going to be a long night! It always seems like such a good idea at the time... dumb dumb dumb..

Oh well Hopefully at the end of the night I won't be so stinken miserable though since I paid so stinken much for these shoes that are suppose to be AMAZING. Let's hope Miss is right! =)

My mom is so funny, she wants me to go to a gynocologist about my being sad... hm... something about that just doesn't seem right. I know she loves this doctor, but I would think a pyscologist would be a better option. But what do I know?

WellI guess I don't have much else to say. Even my pup is bored, he's just laying on the floor asleep. I wish I could fall asleep here and there for five minutes. I'd probably feel more refreshed!

Well... back to watching the clock! =)

Why do I feel this way?

Lately I just feel so bad about myself.. my work.. my image.. my life.. everything. And the problem is one minute I'm on top of the world and the next I don't think I could feel lower.

I just lay in bed and think about how bad I feel about myself. I know it's unhealthy, I know it's unGodly.. I know it's selfish, especially with all the hurting people in this world.. but i just hurt inside.

I don't know how to make it go away. Poor Joey, he doesn't know what to do with me, and he's so tired and worn out I honestly don't think he has the energy anyway.

LORD, make me better, make me stronger. Make me love myself the way you intended me to. Hlep me to grow secure, not in my image, or the way I feel about myself but in my relationship with you. You are what will make me stronger... not the jeans that hide my fat, or the working out that will zip my wedding dress all the way up... stupid stupid stupid things... why do I put value in them? Teach me that you are the only way. Logically I know it, but my heart cries differently.